The relationship of men and women is built on principles such as love, attention, mutual understanding, communication, respect and several other others. Each of us chooses a person for ourselves and the best. Otherwise, why is it all needed? But in the process of living together, some facts and character traits that you have not noticed before or they were not so obvious are manifested.
If your wife guesses an example and advice of a mother -in -law in conducting your spouse, do not rush to say that it is bad. Gently and delicately you need to redirect attention to what interests you. Comparison with the mother can very angry a woman for several reasons. • She has a strained relationship with her mother and a similar comparison is unpleasant.• There is an opinion that the son -in -law always considers the mother -in -law bad and not right. Therefore, a comparison of a woman with a bad person will not raise her mood.• The woman is unique and you can not compare her with anyone.• The wife considers the line of behavior of her mother wrong, since she herself grew up under her leadership and felt the mistakes made on herself and on herself. Now he is making every effort to prevent such misses, and here you are with your “you are as a mother”.
In order not to offend his lady and not to lose all his bonuses, a man must carefully show his wife that she behaves a little wrong. These are the words here are suitable.
“Let’s discuss”. ABOUT! Do not feed women with bread, let me talk. And then the husband himself offers to speculate about the situation. The dialogue is most likely your work will take place – to direct it to the right direction.
“Is it really to us (our child) need? For what?”Sometimes, in the process of distributing advice and instructions, the wife crosses all the boundaries. In order to stop the stream of a priori of successful and correct solutions a little, you need to stop attention at some element and find out the reasons for its necessity.
“Let’s try differently”. If the carrot casserole according to the mother -in -law does not climb, it is time to offer changes and experiments.
“I heard/saw/read that you can also do it. What do you think the result will be?”. You indicate alternative options and essentially ask for advice on how to do it and how it all ends. To have an idea of the proposed one should try it.
“Let’s create a new tradition for our family”. If the mother -in -law believes that the New Year needs to be celebrated with her, this does not mean that the situation is unchanged. The spouse, of course, will agree to go on a holiday to his beloved mother. And what to do with you when the salads are alreadyasted? In order to fall off your beloved from mom’s habits, offer something more attractive. Go to Karaoke and name this with a new tradition of your perfect family. The concept of property and family rallying should light the gaze of the lady.