What to do? Parents need to revise the system of their values. Stop worrying about the already spent money and reorient from material issues to the mental climate in the family. Ask for forgiveness from your child for some mistakes, recognize your wrongness in something (after all, we are all imperfect) and begin to establish a trusting relationship with him. If the teenager has no anger against his parents, he will not show her in such a roundabout way. Perhaps a consultation of a psychologist will be required.
Where does the need come from?
Why does a teenager need a mobile phone so? Social pressure plays a large role: they say, friends have, but he does not have. It is useless to explain that not everyone has cell phones. Your arguments will be ignored. And the trick is what. The teenager is still looking for his image, and it is very important for him that others think about him. Therefore, he easily falls under the influence of someone else’s opinion and norms adopted in a group of people to which he refers to himself. And the mobile phone serves as a kind of pass into the desired circle of communication, the key to attention from significant children and a means of self -affirmation. In addition, this is also a way to stand out by emphasizing the prosperity with an expensive little thing.
What to do with it? Help form a positive acceptance of himself regardless of external attributes in the child. Let him know that he is good, valuable and self -sufficient – with a beautiful thing or without it. Relatives love him not for something, but of course, simply because he is. The most important are his intelligence, abilities, human qualities. Listen to his feelings, teach them to show. It is very important that he does not feel abandoned, lonely. Then the child will become resistant to group pressure, it will be impossible for him to manipulate, forcing himself to behave “like everyone else”, “as is customary” or fashionable.