Psychologists say that children who look forward with optimism better study, think faster and contact peers perfectly. They can quickly cope with any stress and, importantly, excellent husbands and wives grow from them. Let’s try to teach our children to believe in our own strength and see only good in the world around him and see in the surrounding world.
Every mother would like to protect her child from any everyday difficulties and troubles, but the main thing is to stop here in time. Parents should not cross the line behind which care for the child can turn into an obsessive guardianship. There are families where the life of mom, dads, grandparents turns around the baby, as the planets of the solar system rotate around the sun. This can lead to the fact that the “bunny” or “paw” will grow by the infantile, unable person to anything. Another option is that the child, having escaped from under guardianship, becomes uncontrollable and will try to prove his independence with any methods. Psychologists identify several reasons for which mothers take care of their children: severe pregnancy, disappointment in men, an attempt to realize their unfulfilled dreams. The same mistake is often made by parents raising one child.
You need to understand that your children are personalities who can independently make a choice and make their own mistakes. The child should be able to cope with difficulties, and parents can help him navigate the situation, learn to fight failures and not lose heart. It’s okay if the baby who learns to walk falls, and the children, who for the first time picked up a spoon, smear delicious porridge in the face. Protect him only from those dangers that can potentially threaten his life and health. Try to set new goals for your child, which he should try to decide on his own and be sure to rejoice with him if he succeeds. Support the child in his endeavors: You can buy a telescope, a lover to draw – brushes and paints, and a little naturalist – a long -awaited puppy. If he fails to find a familiar constellation or draw a picture, try not to criticize his mental abilities, but help a little.
It is very important for the child to know: they love him just like that, and not for the fact that he does something well. Even if you punish, always say why and for what misconduct. Be sure to inspire the children that success is the result of invested forces, and not a gift of fate.