Many mothers who have two children are likely to know the situation when older children show jealousy for a new family member. Children are literally changing before our eyes and in every possible way try to annoy in anything, nor the guilty younger brother or sister. How to behave in such a situation and how to smooth out a manifestation of childhood jealousy? Our article will give answers to all these questions.
The factors are most contributed to the emergence of this feeling:
A small difference between children (from one year to three years).
If the eldest child in the family is a boy or the same -sex children.
Parents are indifferent to what is happening in the relationship between children.
This list of factors can be continued, but from it we can conclude that the correct attitude of parents to the current situation plays an important role. So what is the correct attitude in?
Firstly, long before the appearance of the crumbs, you must prepare the older child for the fact that the brother will be born small and helpless, and he will need the love and care of the elder. All the innovations that are planned (excommunication from the chest, the resettlement of the baby to another room or going to kindergarten) must be made before the birth of the child. Otherwise, the older child may have the impression that because of the appearance of the sister or brother, you separate him from yourself.
Another important detail will help prevent the manifestation of childhood jealousy – after the birth of the crumbs, you must maintain your old relationship with the older child. So, for example, if you stop kissing the baby on the cheek after waking up, walking on the street as usual, or read the child’s fairy tales at night, he will find a “guilty” in the person of the younger sister or brother.
If, it was not possible to prevent childhood jealousy, and the relationship becomes more tense, control over the situation must be taken into your hands. Moreover, you should not condemn the actions of the older child, this can only aggravate the situation. You just need to have a well -built trusting conversation with your child. Explain to the child that you understand his feelings, and you will not scold him for jealousy. Try to praise the baby more often. After all, when they believe in you, you are trying with all your might to meet expectations.
In any case, every child passes through a sense of jealousy. It’s just that in such a situation you should behave most wisely, because now your relationships with your child and the friendship of your kids in the future are at stake.