For the correct and healthy development of your child. So that in the future he can build a So -family correctly, a parental example is very important and this is known to almost everyone. So, if the family is healthy, there is such a subsystem “Children” and the subsystem “Parents”.
Parents plan a vacation, dispose of money, and also make decisions in terms of functioning of all family members. Also, parents, having established the rules, make sure that family members observe them. They have the right to punish the violator Il, on the contrary, to the so -called “merits to the Fatherland”.
Such parents have an area in which the entrance to children is prohibited, for example, this is a spouses bed. In unhealthy and dysfunctional families, the association goes on a completely different attribute, for example, on the floor: girls (daughter and mother), boys (son and dad). Sometimes coalitions of two to three are created against someone one. In the example – mom and children against the father of the father.
This is all a violation of the family hierarchy, prevents children from developing and growing; After all, to what they have to participate in them simply in front of them have not yet been grown up. And they are forced to do this to the detriment of themselves and their children’s games. It happens that they take over the children overwhelming for them and responsibility for their younger sisters – brothers, as well as for themselves.
It happens that sometimes in particularly severe cases, children are also responsible for their parents. They grow up ahead of time, more alarming than other children, almost always abandon their needs and desires. Then it will certainly come around when age reaches adulthood. Therefore, always be careful and polite to your children. Treat them with understanding and appreciate their opinion, as a small one, but all the same person.