More recently, I was faced with two cases of complex family relations. Situations relate to disappointment in people.
What is characteristic, both of these cases are associated with mothers of loners who are brought up by one child. By the way, both have girls. Or rather, already girls.
So the fact is that as soon as the daughters grew up, they began to behave with mothers as with unnecessary and preventing them from living elements. I must say that those girls are not a turning point in this period, since the daughters are already 20 and 21, unless this period is a delayed turning point. But we will not be distracted. The behavior of daughters gave rise to disappointment in people of their mothers.
What it means – they began to behave with mothers as with unnecessary and interfering with them to live elements?
Judge for yourself. In both cases, mothers did not dull the souls in their daughters. In both cases, mothers dispersed into spouses due to sloppiness and drunkenness of husbands. Accordingly, the mother switched all their attention and care for her daughters. Both worked hard for two, and sometimes three work, if only the daughters were provided with everything necessary.
And really everything was with the daughters. Housing conditions were improved qualitatively. Almost all the vagaries of girls were performed. It can even be said that the girls had a lot that most of their girlfriends could not be foreseen even now. For example, they were taken around Europe to tourist tours. They bought good cars and so on.
Honestly, I am even surprised how it turned out to do these mothers, because their work is far from having such purchases, unless to completely limit themselves to everything and use only the necessary minimum.
In short, these women would be erected by these women in life, and I say this quite seriously.
So regarding daughters. From scratch, both daughters began to suddenly suspect mothers of surveillance after them. Когда матери хотели поинтересоваться у дочерей, в чем дело и что случилось, начиналась ругань с обвинениями в адрес матерей, что это не их дело и они(матери) всю жизнь им(дочерям) испортили.
It is amazing that these two families are not familiar with each other and did not intersect in life, but the nature of the behavior of daughters is similar like two drops of water.
Very soon the girls found the guys and married them. At the same time, having completely destroyed relations with mothers. It would seem, well, since I found a young man for myself and want to continue to live with him, please live. So it is not, something forced these daughters to completely break with their mothers. Well, as it was already noticed, the result was disappointment in people of their mothers.
We will leave our daughters and think, but what was the reason for the disappointment in people of their mothers?
Oddly enough, in overly overstated significance. They overestimated significance in the process of care and courtship for their daughters. And as you can see, objects of excessive attention have greatly hit the sources of this attention. It is not strange – this is one of the features of the structure or if you want the laws of the world in which we live.
If we represent the analogy, then this is more like pulling the elastic band, but not light, but forcibly strong and mentally stubbornly stubborn. And if this elastic bands is so pulling, it will break out of the ends from the fingers or break it and will hit hard.
These mothers have this life and hit.
They could avoid this severe emotional trauma, if they had not set the absolute and main goal of the life of their daughters, but would look for this goal in the more exalted areas of being, where there is no disappointment.
The conclusion is simple: if you want to live without disappointment in people, then showing due care of others and loved ones, do not make them the absolute goal of life.
After all, living is much more pleasant and easier when a person does not create problems for himself. Isn’t it like that?