The upbringing of Soviet times prescribes to teach the child to be modest. How correct is it and whether to adhere to this norm in the modern world? Is it so bad to grow a confident person who realizes his virtues? Or behind this measure lies the danger of becoming self -confident and losing caution? Meanwhile, psychologists note that modesty does not adorn those people who understand this before the rest today can boast of serious successes and a happy life.
So, modesty is not a dignity, at least there are many other qualities that deserve the attention of a person. Get rid of the oppression of education you need to love for yourself. In practice, it looks something like this: admiring your reflection in the mirror. As a rule, many people use this item as a means of checking the appearance: whether the hairstyle is disheveled and the buttons are fastened on the coat. And you need to start every day with the search for something attractive in the form and even dream about how others notice this feature. As soon as people begin to compliment, we can say that the exercise is performed “excellent”.
You also need to be able to respond to pleasant statements addressed to you. Firstly, to show gratitude to that person, from whose lips a compliment is heard. Secondly, not to look surprised that it is not news at all, but a completely established pattern. Of course, it is worth fearing arrogance, perhaps this is an extra character trait. Thirdly, reciprocate others, t. e. Learn to speak compliments to others. You can start not with direct contact, but with a conversation with a third -party person in which to mention how good the absent person is.
It is very important to keep in memory the joyful and happy moments of life and turn to such memories quite often. It will not be superfluous to praise yourself for the right phrase, for a decent act, for the fact that there was enough courage to change life and master the foreign exchange market. True, the memory will slip negative moments, but you do not need to experience a feeling of shame again and again. You should find a decent justification for yourself and calm down on it.
The merits for something good from the past need to be attributed to yourself, because in fact, it is. Otherwise, as a successful IB, the representative became such if he did not make efforts to this. And how, if not thanks to their own will, it was possible to lose weight by several sizes, learn to competent money management, etc. D. Of course, behind all the successes is a person himself, his will, abilities, mind and other qualities. No need to be modest and say that it was another person who influenced the decision. The realization that success is a personal merit guarantees the avoidance of failures in the future.
It is worth praising yourself for professionalism in work and for the ability to cook delicious hodgepodge. Of course, it is necessary to observe the measure in everything, but it is impossible to compare yourself with another person in your favor. In addition, you need to talk aloud about your achievements, about the work done, about the efforts attached in order to hear praise in response.