It is important, living in a big city, to act not according to an imposed pattern, but by how good it is for you, for your personality, soul. Now we are urged from childhood to turn on our heads and do everything through their heads. Around the worship of the mind, although in fact. The head with you can do anything. She can tell you that “this” is good, although your nature “this” will be unnatural. This is largely coming from childhood, because parents are worried about the child, they say to him: do not go here, put on a hat. They teach the child to rely on external requirements, and not listen to themselves.
Then, over the years, it develops much stronger, especially in smart, reflective people. They become slaves of their head. It must be understood that our heads have a lot of solutions, arguments, explanations for any situation why your feelings are wrong. Therefore, by and large, the head should not be completely trusted. The most part contains other people’s formulations, other people’s attitudes. We must learn to listen to the heart, because the heart always has one answer: yes or no. Moreover, starting with the little things – eat lunch or not. Or – get married or not? The head will put forward a thousand arguments why you do not want, but why is it necessary. The head has many options, and the heart has one answer. Our task is to learn how to listen to the heart. And in this case, we go our own way, achieve our goals, what we need, and not what we are imposed on.
How to learn to listen to the heart? We look through the pictures. You got married and watch a movie to yourself, and then at the same time try to delve into yourself and feel whether it is comfortable or uncomfortable. This criterion is given to us by nature. Yes, or not from our heart is perceived in the body: if the state is comfortable, then we feel blurring heat, if uncomfortable – usually spasms.
Exercise number 1
We need to learn to understand where and how in the body we feel comfort and discomfort.
To do this, remember the catastrophically uncomfortable situation, what you felt – a stone in the stomach, squeezed your head, etc. D. Remember and feel where discomfort lives in your body, feel different degrees of its degree. We note that the chain of uncomfortable reactions is one.
Exercise number 2
Then we, on the contrary, recall when we made other decisions, when there was a feeling, yes – this is mine, a feeling of inner innocence. This will also definitely have some correlates in the body. Most likely – respiratory straightening, warmth in the body, lightness, sensation of pleasant excitement, transparency in the head.
Exercise number 3
Further, when you learned your personal bodily feeling of comfort and discomfort. Take a movie before each situation: if I get married, if I will be comfortable? And a feeling of comfort or discomfort – and there will be an answer to this question.
Or another situation – a person comes to get a new job. Yes, he liked these people, but he cannot imagine how everything will turn out here. He cannot predict the events that will occur, but the overall picture will still be. The image of the building, the image of people – this should not be thought out the details, but an attempt to catch a common feeling that which is closer to realism, but to expressionism.
Когда мы чувствуем дискомфорт, и начинаем себя уговаривать, ничем хорошим, как правило, такие ситуации не заканчиваются.
Sometimes a person cannot afford not to go to work, because tomorrow he will have nothing to eat. And so, he was offered a job, but he feels discomfort. Then he compares the degree of discomfort from both situations. And it turns out that going to work is less uncomfortable than being left without it. And he makes a decision – I go to work, but I do not stop in the search.