On the comments of strangers, such parents usually say: we are strict with children. Do we want them to be like that?. But it turns out to wish and want – not all. The good must be taught. And not a belt. The belt is a sign of an adult’s moral impotence in front of the child, a sign of inability – to influence him with a word, conviction. But it is necessary to teach with your own example, reasonable requirements, the entire system of influences, designed for consciousness, for the conscience of the child. To teach thoughtfully, patiently, forming the character of a future person. Other parents from the very first steps of the baby come running to slaps, belt, believing that one and a half to two-year-old baby does not yet understand anything. Will clarifications reach him, and the slap will make him understand that his actions do not approve. And about humiliation of personality in a child of this age, is it worth talking? Accustomed to leading children’s behavior with the help of cuffs, parents begin to consider this as usual and slap the child for any occasion. The kid stained his hands, playing in the sand – he receives a slap; Soaked his sleeves and collar, washing his face – again a slap; He had a button – the same…Which of us did not have to observe such a scene: the child falls, hurts and in addition receives a fair portion of slaps from his mother. Maybe she is sorry for the stained dress or torn stocking? Or a slap means a warning for the future to be careful? The child gets used to such influences and gradually ceases to react to them: there is a certain hardening to twitch and slap. He sometimes even boasts: but it doesn’t hurt me… But I do what I want!. It does not have to say that such a child is dulled in sensitivity to the parent’s word. You, shameless! He doesn’t care about him, like water from a goose! – the parents will annoy, not suspecting that they themselves made him unscrupulous.
