Our words and actions should not show that we are in a hurry. People who are constantly in a hurry are very busy, but their behavior is often perceived by other people as a manifestation of unpreparedness and inorganization. The messages that we direct others should say that we are busy and do important work. As in any communication process, our words and actions determine the impression that we make on others. Who will we be in the eyes of these people: winners or losers?
To establish contact with people at the top of the corporate structure or at a higher level of the pyramid, we need to find out what the ability to dispose of time means to them:
“Sometimes you have to combine three or four important projects. What helps you to prioritize in such a situation and determine what you need to do first?”
Such a question will not seem to be a question for a beginner who is looking for advice. We find out an expert strategy to determine the best way to distribute time. As in all cases of communication with people at the top of the pyramid, we need to avoid the asking persons of a person who needs help. We must say like people who are among ten or twenty percent, but strive to get into the top five best.
The ability to dispose of time is a very important quality that is not given from birth. It needs to be taught to all employees of American companies. However, this does not happen. As a result, many people remain at the base of the pyramid and often leave the company. Our results will be completely different if we learn to effectively dispose of our own time.
Now you have an idea of what people who are at the top of the corporate structure need. Let’s learn how to develop the specific skills that are necessary in order to become a great communicator in personal life and professional activity. Women are communicators aimed at communication. Men are more focused on the task and result. Women usually concentrate on building relationships and close communication with those who they like.
For millennia, men do not get tired of surprising the behavior of women, and women – the behavior of men. The reason is simple. Men and women think differently. Imagine the situation. An unfamiliar woman approaches an unfamiliar man in a bar and invites him to a date. In this case, the man will accept the proposal of the stranger if he likes him. This is typical for men. Such behavior of a woman is flattered by male pride: she considers him so physically attractive that she appoints him a date, without even knowing what kind of person he is!
Women are on the contrary. If an unfamiliar man invites her to a date, she will consider it offensive! Before you agree to such a proposal, she needs to know that she is interested in a man as a man. A woman, most often, gives consent if she feels that a man is treating her with respect. A woman needs an equal degree of openness of communication partners. If a woman is attracted to participation in communication, she prefers people who share their personal experience and experiences.
Once a month I spend evening classes for adults in educational institutions of the state of Minnesota. The theme of classes is “irresistible charm”. This is a seminar that enables men and women to see what actually attracts representatives of the opposite sex. In the classroom, women constantly tell me that the date cannot be spontaneous. He must be preceded by a certain relationship. These “relationships” (actually just a conversation) can last only an hour! Women want to be taken seriously. Women know that men do not make friendship with other men “at first sight”. They will not invite a person who is seen for the first time for the first time. A woman wants her to be treated the same. To build more close relationships, she needs to feel that the man has already received some idea of her.
Regardless of what kind of floor you belong to, you need to remember the following: women value mutual openness in communication, and this is the only way to build a deeper relationship with them.