You feel that recently people have been trying to avoid long conversations with you. Even her sister cannot speak with you for a long time, she is constantly, something annoys in you. And she is not alone in her statements.
Try to look at yourself from the side. Do you like your manner of others than it can annoy them, and what is happening wrong? You think that you are always kind in a conversation and did not notice any special oddities.
Abandon your manner
Analyze the conversations you remember. Remember how the conversation was, what was the reaction of the interlocutor and how, in the end, he ended. Maybe you have an army manner of conversation that causes the rejection of others. “Do as I say” and similar statements, involuntarily, make a conversation at a dead end. By this you translate a person from the category of the interlocutor, into subordinates. It is clear that in this case no one is going to listen to your orders further.
Maybe you are talking in the form of interrogation. “With whom” was, “What was about?”,” Where did the money go?”And similar statements encourage the interlocutor to interrupt the conversation. Usually after such an “interrogation” people will try to avoid meeting you.
Put out. “You always did not know how to cook!”,” Only it could have occurred to you!” and so on. Who will like it when it is publicly “disassembled on bones”. This also guarantees you a surge of negative emotions on the part of the interlocutor.
The present manner “wave your hands after a fight”. “If I listened to me”, “I knew” and in a similar style, cannot cause positive emotions among the interlocutor.
If during a conversation, you do not let anyone insert a half -word, and you are not going to change the conversation, the interlocutor himself will leave the conversation.
More positive emotions
Behave so that a person understands that you are pleased to have a conversation with him. Accept a free, laid -back pose. Avoid excessive gestures and do not cross your hands, this speaks of rejection and closed. Look a person directly in your eyes, do not hide your gaze. It will immediately be noticeable in the eyes, if someone says a lie. Always try to talk with a smile. Be polite and tactful. Ask questions, ask for. This will make you understand that you are really interested in the interlocutor.
Try not to interrupt and always patiently listen to the speaking, maybe she just needs to express my sore. Show sympathy in this case.
If the topic of discussion is affected in the conversation, try not to switch to personality and not indicate their shortcomings. Respect the feelings of the interlocutor.
Try to listen more in conversation than to speak. This manner will constantly attract new interlocutors to you, who decided to share with anyone their problems.