We have a cold on the lips, and we immediately think: “God! Not that! How will I go out into the street? What people will think of me?”Or we forgot to wash the spot on the jacket, and we do not have the other, but we urgently need to run somewhere. We think about the opinions of others again. This causes us a sense of anxiety and nervousness. But is it possible to get rid of it? We live in society and, of course, sometimes we have thoughts about other people, and a certain opinion is taking shape about them. Therefore, it is also natural to think about the opinions of other people in relation to us. Egocentrism is inherent in almost any person, that is, it is common for us to cocovage the whole world on ourselves and identify with us everything surrounding and what is happening. In fact, most likely, the pimple who jumped up on our forehead in the morning, the shooter on tights or the fact that we, forgetting the swimsuit, decided to swim in a T -shirt and shorts, did not bother around. But every time we instinctively, we look closely at the views of others and listen to the spoken words behind us. We are afraid to look ridiculous and ridiculous in the eyes of others, although we ourselves perfectly understand that there is nothing out of the ordinary. The least problems among those people who are characterized by healthy reflection are the ability to adequately look at themselves from the eyes of others. It is more difficult for those people who, for some reason, developed a set of inferiority or other psychological barriers. There is nothing terrible in standing a little for the line of the generally accepted “should be so”, unless, of course, this is not the face of the permitted. And the opinion of others, their assessment, if they exist, then in some special way they do not affect us. On the other hand, the fixation on someone else’s opinion is associated with a sense of shame, which is vaccinated in us since childhood. Hence the uncertainty arises, which is reflected not only on behavior, but also on the attitude to life in general. There are, of course, people who are not worried about the opinions of others at all. Such people are able to break through their way to success, while stuffing a lot of cones. This is not to say that this is a positive example. Sometimes it is worth taking into account the opinion of other people, but not depend on it completely. Sometimes, if a person does not spit on what others think of him, it can play a positive role. For example, a young man who has a certain image refuses smoking only because he believes that it is ugly. In this case, the concept of “ugly” sounds as the idea that “a negative opinion may develop about me”.But do not blindly follow someone else’s opinion, unconditionally listen to others. Do not make hasty conclusions, it is better to think several times yourself, delve into yourself. You never need to put your own opinion below others! There are no authorities, there are only doctors of science and manipulators. The opinion of your friends, loved ones and relatives can also be erroneous. Often we, for example, accept the opinion of parents only because they are parents, their feelings must be protected, while completely forgetting about their feelings. Subsequently, this leads to aggression and hostility. It is necessary to defend your opinion if you think that it is especially important for you, even if you have loved and respected people, unless, of course, this is not a matter of principle. And this also sometimes happens: “Maybe I’m wrong, but from the principle I never recognize your opinion!”. This is the reverse side of complete submission. There is no need to be afraid of disputes in the family, in disputes you express your opinion, which means that you better recognize each other and, no matter how paradoxical it sounds, improve your communication. And depending on the opinions of others, you risk completely to lose your personality, and often all the possibilities that arise in front of you. Remember: how many people, so many opinions. It is impossible to please everyone, and you don’t need to please! No matter how people look at you and that they would not think about you, you know the truth about yourself, but they do not. You know yourself, and this is your strength!
